Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Life of Crime

I know many of you have wanted to know more about my facebook post regarding Ciara and the forged signature.
Here is the whole story:
In her class, if you forget (or just don't do) a homework assignment, your name is written on the board.
For my perfectionist daughter, this is probably the worst punishment.
Not only has she made a mistake, but EVERYONE knows about it.
I think what happened is that she forgot to bring home her reading assignment one day, and instead of just doing it the next day, she chose to write her dad's signature on the paper so her name would not be written on the board.
I also think it has to do with the fact that she does not have a great teacher this year.
The teacher shows no interest in the kids, and doesn't seem to relate to them at all.
I have been very disappointed.
Because of this, Ciara doesn't see the need to try.
We have talked about it, but trying to explain to your 7 year old that you have to learn no matter who teaches can get tricky.
She is also having trouble with the kids in her class.
Some girls that she thought were her friends at the beginning of the year have become less nice.
Ciara gets very upset when people don't like her.
I blame this on the fact that my daughter has been raised to believe that everyone adores her.
(Because, let's face it, who doesn't?)
But with a teacher who doesn't care, and classmates that are not very nice, 2nd grade is becoming rather difficult for her.
Hence, her life of crime choice.
When I was informed that she forged a signature, my mind immediately flashed forward 10-15 years, and I was terrified that this was a pattern that was going to keep repeating.
I mean, if you are already forging signatures at age 7, what will you be doing at age 17??
I have tried to take a step back, and realize that this is not a pattern, just a one-time incident.
We just need a better teacher, and class.
I did beg her first grade teacher to just follow Ciara through all the grades.
We love her.
But since that probably won't happen, we will just have to figure out how to deal with difficult people.
Still, age 7 just seems too young to have to learn this.

2 comments:

Jocelyn Christensen said...

What a tender post! Tell Coarse there is one 4 yr old over here who is president of her fan club! What kind of teacher publicly humiliates kids to get them to do homework!? Shameful. Bad teachers...we've all had 'em. Luckily mine didn't come along until 5 th grade!

Jocelyn Christensen said...

Autocorrect keeps changing her name sorry!