Disturbing

Yesterday, Ciara went to play at a classmates house. This just happened to be a boy. This boy is one that kisses her in class. I was a little hesitant to send her there, because of the kissing, but I decided that they are just kids, and kissing isn't all that bad. When she got home, we asked if she had fun, which she did. But then she proceeds to tell me that the boy (who shall remain nameless) kept "poking her gina." (Gina is her word for vagina). This really disturbed me. I didn't know how to respond when she said that. I asked her if she told him to stop, and she said she did, but he wouldn't stop, so she finally went and told his mom. I am very proud of how she handled this, but still did not like that she had to do that in the first place. Why would he do that? I know that kids will be kids, but where do I draw the line? In my head, that was over the line. To be fair, I just finished a book about a child who is molested by a priest, so maybe I am just being sensitive to this. But it bothers me. I really don't want to her play at his house anymore. I am worried that his mom is going to ask again if she can come over, and I want to say no. How do I do that without creating a situation? Yes, my daughter's safety comes first and I guess honesty is the best policy. But is there a better way to say, "No, your son poked my daughter's vagina, and I would rather that not happen again."? That just sounds weird. I can't tell her that until her son learns some manners, Ciara will no longer be going there. This needs to be handled delicately, and I don't think I know how to do that. Any suggestions?